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Dating & Marriage

Hanging out, situationships and more

I am trying to adhere to the principle that Christians should not be “unequally yoked”. What should I do if I realise I’ve started developing feelings for someone who isn’t a Christian? How do I draw the line between simply “hanging out” as friends and something more? Should I limit casual one-on-one dates to Christians only?

Should we have kids?

My husband and I are in our mid-30s and have been married for eight years. We are the only childless couple in our church community. He prefers our current lifestyle, is overseas half the month for work and is unlikely to change careers.

Waiting for my boyfriend of seven years to propose

My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven years since we were 18 years old. I am pretty sure I would agree to marry him if he were to propose. But lately, I sense that he has no interest in getting married and settling down …

My marriage has gone cold

I have been married for more than ten years and have a child about 5 years old. For many years, I have tolerated my husband’s anti-social behaviour and fixed ways. In the past, we visited a few churches, eventually settled down for a few years in a church and even served together in ministry.

My husband and I have drifted apart

I have been married for five years now and my husband is a backslidden Christian. In the last one to two years, we have drifted apart as he is a ride-hailing driver and works during the night when I am asleep. We are no longer a couple but more like friends. We are headed towards divorce if this continues as he has no intention for any counselling or does not seem to want to work on the marriage. What should I do? ~ Confused

I cannot go on any longer in this marriage

I have been married for more than 30 years. I do not have a healthy relationship with my husband as he tends to be critical and even verbally abusive. I’ve wanted to divorce him many times over the years but didn’t because I know God does not want divorce and I stayed on because of the children. I bear with him because he came from a broken family and perhaps doesn’t know better. Now that my children are grown up and things have not changed, I am thinking that I should think about myself in my later years. In fact, my children have encouraged me to leave my husband because of how he treats me. I have suggested going for counselling but my husband is not open to that. Even when I tried to explain how I felt, he ends up blaming me. I feel that I cannot go on any longer in this marriage and don’t know what to do. ~ Exhausted

Is it possible to remarry in a Methodist church?

I’m a divorcee and I’m looking to get married again. My ex-wife and I divorced because of her money habits. She had lent various people/family members over $40k without telling me and had issues about saving money, amongst other issues that led to mental neglect. Our divorce was not due to infidelity.
Now, I have found someone that I would like to settle down with and give marriage a second try. Would it be okay for us to get married in a Methodist church? Would a Methodist pastor be able to solemnise our wedding? If not, would it be okay to use the church hall but have a non-Methodist pastor solemnise our wedding? ~ Joseph

My husband is “fighting his feelings” towards another woman—is this infidelity?

My husband of 25 years told me he fell in love with someone my daughter’s age. He says he has never felt this way before. I consider this infidelity. He does not because he says he is fighting his feelings. I am so hurt. Is he right? Am I too sensitive? How can I be with a man who doesn’t love me but loves someone else? ~ Broken

Is it okay for my husband to give his female colleague a ride to work frequently?

My husband and I have been married for seven years and we have two children. Recently, I found out that he has been giving a female colleague a ride to work frequently. I found this out by accident when I saw a message coming into his phone which was left on the table, confirming pick-up time. When I asked my husband about it, he said this colleague lives along the way to the office and her husband was unable to send her to work on some days. He claimed that he picked her up only occasionally and he was just being helpful. I do not feel comfortable with this arrangement and told him so. Instead of respecting my wishes, he accused me of being controlling and insecure. I also found out that after a business trip they would share a taxi back together as our homes are close. While this sounds convenient, I am not comfortable with the thought. What should I do? Am I being difficult? ~ Concerned

If a spouse agrees to divorce, would it mean he doesn’t believe that God can heal the marriage?

From what I understand, divorce is permissible if one party commits adultery and wants to divorce their legal spouse. If the spouse agrees to the divorce, would it mean he/she does not believe that God can heal the marriage? On the other hand, if the spouse does not agree to the divorce, is he/she being stubborn and overly optimistic? In what circumstances would God not want the spouse to divorce the party who continues to commit adultery? ~ Wondering

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