You & Your Family

Breaking free from a legacy of wrath

In last month’s issue of Methodist Message, I shared about three men seeking to free themselves from the legacy of harsh parenting. In their childhood households, love and care was only shown, if at all, when they met parental expectations.

Legacy of Wrath

The similarities among three clients struck me recently. All three are men. All three are capable high achievers with respectable jobs. And all three have issues with managing their anger.…

Beware the desire to return to the past

It has been a few months since Singapore shifted to “living with Covid” and treating it as endemic. Most restrictions for gatherings and dining have been lifted and more workers…

Who am I?

In May 2016, The New York Times carried an interesting and thought-provoking article entitled Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person. Alain de Botton, the writer, asserted that whether we choose…

How do I marry the right one?

In May 2016, The New York Times carried an interesting and thought-provoking article entitled Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person. Alain de Botton, the writer, asserted that whether we choose…

I picked a bone

“I picked a bone,” my client admitted with some hesitation. We had been talking and trying to understand a recent argument with his wife. My work with him focused on helping…

The Great Realisation

A Sunday Times article on 30 January 2022 covered a trend dubbed “The Great Resignation” (also known as “Lying Flat”) sweeping some countries. It noted that Singapore’s manpower data do…

Hope

A recent invitation to be a panel speaker in a webinar on “hope” led me to mull over this multi-faceted subject. Here, I shall consider the importance of hope in…

Belonging to a community

“I don’t mind the Christian God, it’s the Christians that I have a problem with!” A statement like this is unfortunate, since Christ’s followers are supposed to be the earthly expression…

Identity: Formation or discovery?

The topic of identity has recently come up repeatedly with clients I have been counselling. A case that has made a strong impression on me involves a couple who have…
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