I am concerned that my grandson is exhibiting signs of autism or some form of neurodivergence. However, I haven’t brought it up with my daughter and son-in-law, and they don’t seem to be aware, usually treating the issue as whether their son is obedient or not. What should I do?
Sue-Lynn says
Dear Grandma,
I believe you can let them know your concerns while still respecting that they are his parents and make the main decisions for their child.
For a start, you may find it helpful to read some useful information about autism and development conditions from local hospital websites. Here are two:
1. https://www.singhealth.com.sg/symptoms-treatments/autism or NUHS
2. https://www.nuhs.edu.sg/patient-care/find-a-condition/autism-children
Find a quiet moment to talk with your daughter and son-in-law privately. You might say, “I wanted to share something because I care about ___ and his development. I’ve noticed a few things, like ___, and I was wondering if you or his teacher have noticed anything similar?” Then give them space to share their thoughts.
You could follow up with, “I’m a little concerned, and I’ve heard that getting support early can really help. Would you be open to talking to a professional about it?” Give them time to think and pray for wisdom and discernment. If you’re able, you can also offer practical help, like bringing your grandson to appointments.
If they’re not receptive right away, remember that teachers are often trained to spot early developmental concerns and may raise them with the parents. Usually, support and therapy come before an assessment is recommended, and professionals can guide parents on next steps.
Above all, keep covering your grandson and his family in prayer and continue offering your love and support.
