Relationships

Who am I?

Many of us go through life not giving much thought to the question of “Who am I?” Identity documents such as our identity card or passport are commonly taken as proof of who we say we are, but they carry only a small bit of information about us. They do not tell who we really are.

How do I marry the right one?

In May 2016, The New York Times carried an interesting and thought-provoking article entitled Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person. Alain de Botton, the writer, asserted that whether we choose…

I picked a bone

“I picked a bone,” my client admitted with some hesitation. We had been talking and trying to understand a recent argument with his wife. My work with him focused on helping…

The Great Realisation

A Sunday Times article on 30 January 2022 covered a trend dubbed “The Great Resignation” (also known as “Lying Flat”) sweeping some countries. It noted that Singapore’s manpower data do…

Hope

A recent invitation to be a panel speaker in a webinar on “hope” led me to mull over this multi-faceted subject. Here, I shall consider the importance of hope in…

Belonging to a community

“I don’t mind the Christian God, it’s the Christians that I have a problem with!” A statement like this is unfortunate, since Christ’s followers are supposed to be the earthly expression…

Identity: Formation or discovery?

The topic of identity has recently come up repeatedly with clients I have been counselling. A case that has made a strong impression on me involves a couple who have…

Social distancing and safe connections

The COVID-19 pandemic has affected us in so many ways. Around the world, millions of deaths have been reported and an unknown number suffer the ravages of long COVID. The…

Calming the storms and stress of adolescence

The psychologist G. Stanley Hall coined the phrase “storms and stress” to describe the intense interpersonal and intrapersonal turmoil that adolescents typically experience. No longer children but not yet adults,…

Living under a cloud

The COVID-19 pandemic has cast a menacing cloud over humanity and directly affected every country, rich or poor. Over the past year and a half, a staggering 187 million have…
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