You & Your Family

What grief gives us

On 8 September, Queen Elizabeth II passed on. The longest-reigning monarch of our time, she was a constant amidst all the changes of the past 70 years.

A single action with lasting effect

He came to see me wanting to work on his impatience and temper. When I asked my usual question of how he learned about me, he shared that it was through his wife.

Breaking free from a legacy of wrath

In last month’s issue of Methodist Message, I shared about three men seeking to free themselves from the legacy of harsh parenting. In their childhood households, love and care was only shown, if at all, when they met parental expectations.

Legacy of wrath

The similarities among three clients struck me recently. All three are men. All three are capable high achievers with respectable jobs. And all three have issues with managing their anger.…

Beware the desire to return to the past

It has been a few months since Singapore shifted to “living with Covid” and treating it as endemic. Most restrictions for gatherings and dining have been lifted and more workers…

Who am I?

Many of us go through life not giving much thought to the question of “Who am I?” Identity documents such as our identity card or passport are commonly taken as proof of who we say we are, but they carry only a small bit of information about us. They do not tell who we really are.

How do I marry the right one?

In May 2016, The New York Times carried an interesting and thought-provoking article entitled Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person. Alain de Botton, the writer, asserted that whether we choose…

I picked a bone

“I picked a bone,” my client admitted with some hesitation. We had been talking and trying to understand a recent argument with his wife. My work with him focused on helping…

The Great Realisation

A Sunday Times article on 30 January 2022 covered a trend dubbed “The Great Resignation” (also known as “Lying Flat”) sweeping some countries. It noted that Singapore’s manpower data do…

Hope

A recent invitation to be a panel speaker in a webinar on “hope” led me to mull over this multi-faceted subject. Here, I shall consider the importance of hope in…
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