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Our son has a male partner

My adult son has a male partner. Earlier this year, it was revealed to us that they have been together for 12 years and have bought an apartment overseas. He knows that as Christian parents we would not accept this type of relationship.

My 5-year-old son says he wants to be a girl

My 5-year-old son is in childcare. In the evenings and on weekends, my husband and I spend time with my son. This year, he told us he likes the colour pink, princesses, unicorns, glittery things, nail polish and dresses.

My marriage has gone cold

I have been married for more than ten years and have a child about 5 years old. For many years, I have tolerated my husband’s anti-social behaviour and fixed ways. In the past, we visited a few churches, eventually settled down for a few years in a church and even served together in ministry.

Can’t come to terms with the trauma my daughter experienced

My daughter went through a traumatic experience a few years ago because a friend abused her trust. She did not share about the incident with me or my wife. We realised something was wrong one day when we saw that she had cut marks on her wrist. When we confronted her, she broke down and shared about what had happened. We were shocked and did not know what to do. It has been a few months and I still feel angry and helpless. I want justice for my daughter, but she does not want to pursue the matter although she agreed to see a counsellor. I am struggling to come to terms with what happened. I pray for protection for my family, but why didn’t God protect her? Why didn’t she tell us then so that we could have done something about it? ~ Shocked Father

I want to be a SAHM but my husband wants me to work

I am a working mother with two young children, both under the age of five. I rely on a helper and my mother-in-law to watch my children while I’m at work. I have always wanted to be a stay-at-home-mum. However, my husband feels that it is better for me to work so that we can have two incomes, though I would rather make the financial sacrifices to be at home. He grew up with a working mother and thinks that all women should work unless there is no help at home. I am frustrated because he does not understand my desire to watch my young children grow up and thinks I should be thankful to have help. I also do not agree with the way my mother-in-law manages my helper and children. As a result, I end up arguing with my husband. How do I get him to see my point of view? ~ wannabeSAHM

My husband and I have drifted apart

I have been married for five years now and my husband is a backslidden Christian. In the last one to two years, we have drifted apart as he is a ride-hailing driver and works during the night when I am asleep. We are no longer a couple but more like friends. We are headed towards divorce if this continues as he has no intention for any counselling or does not seem to want to work on the marriage. What should I do? ~ Confused

I cannot go on any longer in this marriage

I have been married for more than 30 years. I do not have a healthy relationship with my husband as he tends to be critical and even verbally abusive. I’ve wanted to divorce him many times over the years but didn’t because I know God does not want divorce and I stayed on because of the children. I bear with him because he came from a broken family and perhaps doesn’t know better. Now that my children are grown up and things have not changed, I am thinking that I should think about myself in my later years. In fact, my children have encouraged me to leave my husband because of how he treats me. I have suggested going for counselling but my husband is not open to that. Even when I tried to explain how I felt, he ends up blaming me. I feel that I cannot go on any longer in this marriage and don’t know what to do. ~ Exhausted

Is it possible to remarry in a Methodist church?

I’m a divorcee and I’m looking to get married again. My ex-wife and I divorced because of her money habits. She had lent various people/family members over $40k without telling me and had issues about saving money, amongst other issues that led to mental neglect. Our divorce was not due to infidelity.
Now, I have found someone that I would like to settle down with and give marriage a second try. Would it be okay for us to get married in a Methodist church? Would a Methodist pastor be able to solemnise our wedding? If not, would it be okay to use the church hall but have a non-Methodist pastor solemnise our wedding? ~ Joseph

Teenage son talks back to his teachers

My nearly-adult teenage son does well in school both academically and in CCAs. However, he gets into trouble every year for talking back to his teachers. Some teachers absolutely adore him; they are the ones who see his heart. But teachers that are “not nice” will bear the brunt of his talkback because he has no respect for either their poor teaching skills or their difficult personalities. He is often the one at fault, but I don’t know how to get him to rein in his tongue. ~ Fed-up Mama

Caught between two friends

I am friends with a couple and have known the husband and wife for nearly a decade now. On the outside, they look like the perfect couple—stable jobs, great kids, nice house, God-fearing family. However, both the husband and wife confide in me separately and share their deepest, darkest secrets with me. They do not know that I am hearing both sides of their stories. I have told them to talk to each other in my separate chats, or to consider couples counselling. How should I tell them I do not want to be involved and that it’s too much for me? ~ Friend in the middle

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